|There are situations where families are so wracked
with grief, they sometimes remember very little about their loved ones' life.
your funeral is an opportunity to set the record straight about your life and
have it recorded as you would want.
should a Funeral Ceremony contain?
My funeral ceremonies include
and Condolences - Attendees are welcomed and the family is recognised.
- Eulogy - can be read either by myself,
or someone nominated by yourself.
- Music - most times, there will be three peices; the entry, reflection, and commital & exit from the chapel. The music will reflect your loved one's tastes in music.
- Reflection - during which a favourite piece of music is played.
readers - these could be children, friends, business acquaintances.
- Poetry - a piece, or pieces of poetry
that represents the deceased as a person is often appropriate.
- Committal - the moment when we say farewell to the deceased.
ahead can give
you peace of mind
I have religion with a Civil Celebrant?
I offer all my clients the option of having some form of religious
moment during the ceremony. This is entirely your decision as to whether yo do
I am no longer surprised
at the number of families who state their mother or father totally rejected the
institutionalised churches, yet retained a definite belief in an after life and
I have also realised that while the older Australian generation regards religious
discussion as a taboo, their children, or grandchildren are not frightened to
talk of their own spirituality.
is Funeral Planning?
Very simply, it
is assisting you plan your funeral for when that time comes.
The primary aspect of this is to collect information on your
life and put it together in, say, booklet format for your family
For many children, this is the first they may have realised
many things about what their parent did in their earlier life.
Grief can be the most terrible thing, especially when unexpected!
Planing now can greatly assist your family
Advice is also
provided on what happens in the various ceremonies, whether
that occurs in a funeral director's chapel, at the graveside,
or in a crematorium chapel.
The one thing I
DON'T do, is recommend any one funeral director. It is quite
unethical for me to do so.
It visit you in your home
and explain the need for correctly recording your life story.
A potential number of visits are agreed on, the fee also agreed
on. The recording of your life's story may require several visits.
As I collect the details
of your life, your story starts developing. I never cease to
be amazed at the numerous things some one has done in their
life, which their children know very little of.
Your story can
develop as an "evolving life" in which your story
is told in chronological format, or, if there is a large amount
of information, the story can be broken into chapters dealing
with specific topics, such as "my rugby days", my
business career etc.
The result is a small book, or booklet that you can pass on
to your children and grandchildren for the sake of family history.
Of course, given that I have been able to collect your life's
details, I can write an appropriate eulogy (life story) for
your funeral ceremony. After all, every one is entitled to a
fitting final farewell.